Everybody knows that we approach reality using 5 senses: sight, hearing, touch, olfaction, taste. What most people don't know thought, is the fact that everybody got a preferred one. This means everyone of us unconsciously prefers a sense over the other two.
That doesn't mean we use that sense above others to live, that would be incorrect as humans will always be depending more on sight than on other senses, for evident reasons. Sight is and will always be the sense that furnishes more informations on external reality. So this preference is not about the sense that we use more, rather that's about the way each of us prefers to organize his inner perception. That has to do a lot with memory. What kind of memory do you have? That is what modes are about. If you're visual, you describe your inner world using images, if you're auditory, you describe it with inner dialogue, and when you're kinesthetic you're doing so by feelings.
Now, I'll tell you how to improve your communication taking advantage of this fact: all you got to do is recognize and adapt your speech to the mode of the person you are talking to, in order to be more significant to her.
Now figure out this: you are talking with somebody who tends to express himself adopting a visual-related language. Probably he's very good in depicting images in his head, and he also has a really good visual memory. This kind of people are much more liable to react to a visual input rather than to an other kind of input. This means that if you can use phrases that contains images rather than sensations or sounds in order to express your ideas, you will make them effectively understand your message.
Basically, when you speak with someone else, you should try to get to know on which sense he mainly relies to organize his inner perception. This allows you to express in a far more powerful and significant way to him. For instance you are talking with a visual person, and you choose to adopt a visual vocabulary, you get better results.
An auditory person will select more sound-likely expressions: "That's music for my ears", "I feel in harmony with myself", "We're on the same tune right now"
A kinesthetic person will draw idioms from the world of feeling in order to express himself: "That's a hot topic", "I'm holding the world in my palms", "Slip out of my life!"
How to take advantage of knowing this? Try to make use of that type of expressions, for example, you may say "this appears to be bad" to be able to respond to a visual person, "this sounds bad" to reply to an auditory, "this feels so bad" to reply to a kinesthetic. A great trick here is to start from the verbs and then build the rest of the phrase around it. Be litteral, just figure out what your idioms means in a litteral way. This is how you can determine whether an idioms is visual/audithory/kinhestetic-related. Everything depends on the contest as well.
To enhance your communicative power try to rephrase your ideas in the same mode the person you talk to does. To give you an example, you might be willing to say "this seems to be bad" in order to answer in a visual style, "this sounds bad" to answer in a auditory style, "this feels bad" to answer in a kinesthetic style. This way you'll make your interlocutor recall something much more significant on his side. A good trick is to change verbs in order to make the phrase significant in his mode. To establish which mode an idioms belongs, think it very litteral. Make very good practice on this to get more flexibility in adapting to a given perceptive modality.
Now that's all, remember: in order to begin, listen carefully for mode-revealing expressions when you talk with people in your daily life. Careful listen is always the base to a good communication.
That doesn't mean we use that sense above others to live, that would be incorrect as humans will always be depending more on sight than on other senses, for evident reasons. Sight is and will always be the sense that furnishes more informations on external reality. So this preference is not about the sense that we use more, rather that's about the way each of us prefers to organize his inner perception. That has to do a lot with memory. What kind of memory do you have? That is what modes are about. If you're visual, you describe your inner world using images, if you're auditory, you describe it with inner dialogue, and when you're kinesthetic you're doing so by feelings.
Now, I'll tell you how to improve your communication taking advantage of this fact: all you got to do is recognize and adapt your speech to the mode of the person you are talking to, in order to be more significant to her.
Now figure out this: you are talking with somebody who tends to express himself adopting a visual-related language. Probably he's very good in depicting images in his head, and he also has a really good visual memory. This kind of people are much more liable to react to a visual input rather than to an other kind of input. This means that if you can use phrases that contains images rather than sensations or sounds in order to express your ideas, you will make them effectively understand your message.
Basically, when you speak with someone else, you should try to get to know on which sense he mainly relies to organize his inner perception. This allows you to express in a far more powerful and significant way to him. For instance you are talking with a visual person, and you choose to adopt a visual vocabulary, you get better results.
An auditory person will select more sound-likely expressions: "That's music for my ears", "I feel in harmony with myself", "We're on the same tune right now"
A kinesthetic person will draw idioms from the world of feeling in order to express himself: "That's a hot topic", "I'm holding the world in my palms", "Slip out of my life!"
How to take advantage of knowing this? Try to make use of that type of expressions, for example, you may say "this appears to be bad" to be able to respond to a visual person, "this sounds bad" to reply to an auditory, "this feels so bad" to reply to a kinesthetic. A great trick here is to start from the verbs and then build the rest of the phrase around it. Be litteral, just figure out what your idioms means in a litteral way. This is how you can determine whether an idioms is visual/audithory/kinhestetic-related. Everything depends on the contest as well.
To enhance your communicative power try to rephrase your ideas in the same mode the person you talk to does. To give you an example, you might be willing to say "this seems to be bad" in order to answer in a visual style, "this sounds bad" to answer in a auditory style, "this feels bad" to answer in a kinesthetic style. This way you'll make your interlocutor recall something much more significant on his side. A good trick is to change verbs in order to make the phrase significant in his mode. To establish which mode an idioms belongs, think it very litteral. Make very good practice on this to get more flexibility in adapting to a given perceptive modality.
Now that's all, remember: in order to begin, listen carefully for mode-revealing expressions when you talk with people in your daily life. Careful listen is always the base to a good communication.
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