Nancy Rose spoke to Lon Woodbury on Parent Choices for Struggling Teens, a radio show on L.A. Talk Radio, about how to raise the child you've got, not the one you want. Parents who refuse to accept their children's core nature, will cause the child to pick up the idea that there is something wrong with them. The host of the show, Lon Woodbury, is an Independent Educational Consultant and has worked with families and struggling teens since 1984.
Nancy Rose
Nancy Rose has raised two sons and has spent more than 25 years studying the power of acceptance in parent-child relationships. A lawyer and accountant by profession, she now spends much of her time as a speaker, author and parent coach. In her new book, Raise the Child You've Got - Not the One You Want she addresses parents who long to re-establish a loving connection with their child.
How to Raise the Child You've Got, Not the One You Want
Nancy's insightful book,"Raise the Child you've Got, Not the One You Want" originated from her own personal experiences growing up. She grew up not really feeling understood by her mother and because of this experienced agonizing feelings around her own identity. She knew her mother loved her, yet did not feel her mother liked her; as a consequence, she spent her childhood trying to convince her mom to like her. It was only many years later, when she became a mother herself that she was able to determine how she could begin to recover from her own childhood hurts.
During her early twenties, Nancy worked on raising her self-worth by becoming an academic super-achiever. Then she stirred from her "trance of accomplishment" when she finally understood that she had worked hard to become a tax lawyer and a CPA just to get her Mom to like her. Now, with a law degree from University of California in Berkeley, as well as a finance degree from the University of Illinois, she uses her know-how, experience, and credentials to passionately champion the emotional needs of children.
She has identified 9 traits for parents to identify who their child is at their core -- activity, adaptability, distractibility, ease with the unfamiliar, intensity, optimism, persistence, regularity, and sensory reactivity. A child will only feel accepted when his or her parents accept each trait, offer guidance and provide parent leadership. By accepting a child's Core Self, it becomes much easier to raise the child you've got, not the one you want.
Nancy Rose
Nancy Rose has raised two sons and has spent more than 25 years studying the power of acceptance in parent-child relationships. A lawyer and accountant by profession, she now spends much of her time as a speaker, author and parent coach. In her new book, Raise the Child You've Got - Not the One You Want she addresses parents who long to re-establish a loving connection with their child.
How to Raise the Child You've Got, Not the One You Want
Nancy's insightful book,"Raise the Child you've Got, Not the One You Want" originated from her own personal experiences growing up. She grew up not really feeling understood by her mother and because of this experienced agonizing feelings around her own identity. She knew her mother loved her, yet did not feel her mother liked her; as a consequence, she spent her childhood trying to convince her mom to like her. It was only many years later, when she became a mother herself that she was able to determine how she could begin to recover from her own childhood hurts.
During her early twenties, Nancy worked on raising her self-worth by becoming an academic super-achiever. Then she stirred from her "trance of accomplishment" when she finally understood that she had worked hard to become a tax lawyer and a CPA just to get her Mom to like her. Now, with a law degree from University of California in Berkeley, as well as a finance degree from the University of Illinois, she uses her know-how, experience, and credentials to passionately champion the emotional needs of children.
She has identified 9 traits for parents to identify who their child is at their core -- activity, adaptability, distractibility, ease with the unfamiliar, intensity, optimism, persistence, regularity, and sensory reactivity. A child will only feel accepted when his or her parents accept each trait, offer guidance and provide parent leadership. By accepting a child's Core Self, it becomes much easier to raise the child you've got, not the one you want.
About the Author:
Learn more about Lon Woodbury on Struggling Teens. He has recorded the entire interview on his weekly L.A. Talk Radio Show show for people to listen to at any time.
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